Being the nice guy also is considered as a guy being stuck in the friend zone. You are here reading this article because you want results on how to stop being a nice guy. Well, you’ve come to the right place! I’ve spent over 8 years working with men on getting out of the friend zone and challenging yourself to be authentically you, so you don’t fall into being the nice guy. In this article, we are going to discuss the common things I see men doing and my clients doing whenever they date a woman that quickly makes you fall into the friend zone and the nice guy trap. Let me be clear on one thing. Being a nice guy is not harmful and is not a bad thing, but you have to have a little bit of backbone when you’re a nice guy.
What Nice Guys Do Wrong and How to Change Them
1.Letting things slide when someone is disrespecting you — you must stand up for yourself by letting them know it’s not okay even if it rocks the boat. In turn you’ll be taken seriously and respected.
2.Investing more into your relationships than others invest in you — are you the one who is always calling, texting, and doing for them? Are you always putting in all the wok? Healthy relationships are built on a mutual investment in developing and cultivating the relationship. If you are always the one putting in the effort, chances are it’s time to move on.
3.Apologizing for things that are not your fault– it’s a knee-jerk reaction to say you’re sorry when you’ve done nothing wrong. Stop smoothing things over.
4.Not having an edge — no attitude, nothing ‘dangerous’, nothing different. You look bland, vanilla, and safe. Goatees, soul patches, and slanted sideburns add a bit of edge.
5.Always being available — you shouldn’t always be available, dropping whatever you’re doing.
6.Compromising your dignity — you need your pride, self respect, and honor. Stand up for what you want.